What I Learned that Caused Me to Hate Feminism

A Brief Recap on Feminism

So in my recent posts here and here I spoke out against feminism.

As expected, it made a lot of people angry.

Truthfully, I went into writing those articles knowing that would happen.

Firstly, people keep calumniating me, suggesting that I am advocating for slavery of wives to husbands.

I certainly did not even slightly imply that.

Or they say that I am not considering the other 10,000 definitions of feminism that contradict the one I used.

I don’t have to keep up with all the contradictory word games Social Marxist Progressives use to change definitions.

I define feminism as a movement that superficially promotes egalitarianism for women while subversively hurting marriage and the family.

Everyone knows that feminism promotes the equality of women to men.

What people are denying is the fact that this equality stance is not congruent with objective reality.

Moreover, these critics are not considering how pushing women to pursue careers has hurt marriages and children.

These critics don’t even address my second argument because they must protect the idol of worshipping career ambition.

Alternatively, everyone loved my article here regarding why men need to step up and be men again.

I would make a comment on how our society is hateful towards men and puts women on pedestals.

But that would be too easy…

However, it is still my intention to convince people that feminism is evil.

I should first show how I came to the conclusion myself.

Then, hopefully that will convert detractors to my side.

Hopeless Nerd

To begin, I never understood women much when I was a kid.

I was into nerd stuff when I was a kid, and I was very shy.

Unsurprisingly, I became a socially awkward teenager that wouldn’t even know what to do if a girl talked to him.

Like many teenagers, I started becoming interested in the opposite sex, but they didn’t seem interested in me.

Growing up in the age of third wave feminism, I actually believed that women would approach the guys they liked.

I actually thought that girls may start conversations with me and ask me out!

It never occurred to me that I had to step up and ask them out.

I was pretty hopeless!

As you can imagine, I never had a date to homecoming or the prom!

After high school, I thought I could reinvent myself for college.

I was still painfully shy, but I knew that I liked women that looked good.

So what did I do?

I started working out, making an attempt to dress nice, and focused on my grooming.

My logic was like:

• Premise 1: Given that men and women are basically the same
• Premise 2: And all the guys I know go after good looking girls
• Conclusion: Then if I become good looking the girls will go after me!

It made a lot of sense logically.

Unfortunately, the conclusion was wrong because premise 1 is wrong.

Some of my critics are thinking, “Well, aren’t you begging the question? Fallacy!!!”

No, because I am about to prove why men and women are not the same.

Nerd to Redpilled

I realized that if I wanted to get a girlfriend then I would have to understand how to do so.

So in my early 20s, I found guys in their older 20s and 30s that were good at getting dates.

I humbled myself to them and had them take me under their wing.

What I learned from them was counterintuitive and changed my understanding of women completely.

Firstly, I learned that what attracts women to men is not the same as what attracts men to women.

For example, physical attractiveness tends to be the most important thing to men.

This is a factor to women, but women are much more attracted to men based on how they carry themselves.

For instance, women tend to like brave, dominant, assertive, confident, funny, and men that lead the social interactions.

They don’t tend to like men who are cowardly, submissive, passive, shy, boring, and men that follow socially.

How do I know this?

I have been both men.

I was the first kind of man, and like I said, girls never paid attention to me.

Then I learned to become the second type of man by studying under my mentors.

And my dating life did a 180.

Now I will say this: I don’t recommend having a packed dating life.

Quite the contrary – it is empty, vapid, will lead to burnout and possibly eternal damnation.

Instead, men should focus on finding a good wife.

But the principles are the same.

One must be attractive to women to either date a lot or to find the best possible wife.

And to be attractive to women one has to learn how men and women are different.

In doing so, you learn that men and women are not the same nor are they equal.

The Biology of Attraction

At this point, most of you are probably with me.

But I guarantee there are some who don’t believe what I said in the previous section.

Therefore, THE SCIENCE™ to the rescue!

Here are a few quotes from THE SCIENCE™ to prove my point:

Men’s physical appearance tends to communicate social dominance, which has the combined effects of intimidating reproductive rivals and attracting mates. In addition to their attractiveness and intimidatory effects, human secondary sexual characters also provide cues to hormonal status and phenotypic quality consistent with the good genes model of sexual selection (which includes parasite resistance).

The evolutionary psychology of physical attractiveness: Sexual selection and human morphology

Yet another trait is sexual dimorphism. Women are theorized to be attracted to masculinity in men, which is theorized to function as a reliable signal of underlying genetic quality.

Evolution, Biology, and Attraction

For women however they need a man thats able to provide, care, be emotionally supportive for them and their child and support them all while ensuring they don’t abandon them. Security and stability is therefore more important to women overall from an evolutionary perspective.

How Evolution Explains Attraction

This is only 3 articles…

But trust me when I say that I have read TONS more that say these exact things.

THE SCIENCE™ proves that women find men attractive based on 3 things:

1. Social dominance factors (brave, dominant, assertive, confident, funny leaders)
2. Sexual dimorphism (more masculine qualities are more attractive)
3. Security (ability to provide, protect and not abandon them)

In other words, THE SCIENCE™ says that for men to be attractive they should be masculine, providing, protecting leaders.

This description sounds awfully like how I described the ideal Catholic man in this article.

*(Just an aside, I am not advocating for macroevolution. I agree with the above studies regarding the observations of attraction science in men and women. But microevolution, which nobody disputes, explains it just fine. Therefore, you can be a Creationist and still agree with the implications of these studies. If you want to learn about the Catholic understanding of Creationism, please check out the Kolbe Center).

How Attraction Science Leads to Anti-Feminism

I know you are now like:

“Okay TheCatholicState, so THE SCIENCE™ proves that men and women have different preferences.

Also, your own experiences, along with all of your friends, proves your point on attraction.

You have both anecdotal and scientific proof on attraction preferences.

But how does this lead to feminism being evil?

Can’t men and women just learn to be attracted each other in spite of attraction preferences?

Can’t we all choose what we want to be and it not have any consequences”

The short answer?

No.

The long answer?

Noooooooooooo.

We can see what’s happening with this great equalization of the genders by looking around us now.

Many men and women aren’t getting married or having kids until later in life.

Moreover, many people struggle to find marriage partners.

Why?

Because men act feminine and women act masculine.

As we have established, THE SCIENCE™ proves that masculine men and feminine women attract mates.

So if we don’t adhere to objective reality we will have a society of independent career women and soy boys.

Per the below chart, median marriage age has been going up since second wave feminism:

Also, the never-married gap has been growing since then too:

Apparently, the ones over 35 just couldn’t find what they were looking for:

But maybe they don’t want to get married?

Oh wait, most do:

But what about the children?

Of course, women want more children than they will have:

Then why don’t they have them?

Okay, so basically people just don’t have enough time because of lack of money, career-focus, or not finding a partner.

Gee… It almost sounds like putting women full time out into the workforce lead to later/less marriages and fewer children.

But I am sure these are all just coincidences /sarcasm.

Conclusion On Why I Hate Feminism

In case it’s not obvious, I hate feminism.

I hated it when I learned that I was duped into thinking that women would ask me out because “mah equality”.

I hated it when I learned that men and women are attracted to opposite roles biologically, so sameness in roles is a lie.

Once I found out that it leads to women being more miserable (i.e. they become wage slaves instead of wives and mothers, like they want to be), I hated it because it’s hateful to women.

At this point, I really don’t understand why anyone even wants to identify as a feminist anymore.

It turns men into soft, effeminate cowards that no women are attracted to.

Moreover, it masculinizes women, makes them compete against men, and after all their wage slaving they are unhappy because they don’t get the marriages or the kids they want.

If you want to protect a woman’s right to pursue her career, and make that her idol, over what she was made for, then be my guest.

But stop virtue signaling like you are doing women a favor.

In the words of Simone Beauvoir, this is what feminists really want:

No woman should be authorized to stay at home and raise her children. Society should be totally different. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one.

Simone de Beauvoir Interview with Betty Friedan

If that’s your idea of “women’s emancipation” then I don’t want it.

I want women to pursue the roles that God called them to pursue.

Wanting anything else for them is hateful, and that’s the real misogyny.

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